Tuesday, May 31, 2011

Where's the Respect?

A local cemetery is in the news. Again. The most recent negative attention was this Memorial Day where visitors couldn't find headstones for the overgrowth of grass and weeds. Apparently perpetual care doesn't always mean that the grounds will be kept free of debris and weeds growing out of control. I mean, who really cares? The "residents" there aren't concerned with landscaping. So what does it matter?

This latest focus on the cemetery follows a long line of complaints against its owner. He's been in the news before. Lots of times. There were suspicions that graves were being exhumed at night and piggybacked in other graves, thus freeing up more plots to sell. Business is business, right? When the last plot is sold it's time to open up more opportunities. Then, last year a woman reported finding a skull in a heap of dirt. She photographed it and authorities were notified, but the skull was gone when the media and the owner showed up. Convenient.

I have my own personal experience with the cemetery, one that left me with a dirty feeling and in a rage over the lack of respect afforded to those who have passed away. Unaware of the bad publicity the cemetery had suffered, we buried my mother-in-law there. When I bought her headstone I had to contact the owner, pay a fee, and get permission to have the stone placed on her grave. I was instructed to go to a local pawn shop to handle this cemetery business. I walked in to the stench of animals, particularly a big gorilla in a cage - among other creatures and their waste. I was lead to a tiny back room where cemetery business was handled. I was shocked. It was not the environment I expected to see when conducting such a somber and respectful transaction. Fortunately, I'd heard the rumors and bad news when my husband died, and he is buried elsewhere.

I don't have a problem with a man owning both a pawn shop and a cemetery. I do have a problem with the business being conducted at one central location, complete with exotic animals and their stench. Show some respect, dude. And keep people where they are placed. It's supposed to be a "final" resting place, not a stopover. No grave should be disturbed except for legal reasons. And never, never, should a body part be above the ground in a pile of dirt.

And finally, keep it mowed. This might be a moneymaker for you, dude, but it's a sacred place for those of us who have loved ones buried there. Where's the respect?


Tuesday, May 10, 2011

Happy 40th Birthday, Randee Allison!

Who wouldn't mind being 40 when 40 looks this good? My oldest beautiful daughter is hitting this milestone today. As her mother, it seems impossible that I've been enjoying her so much for so long. It feels like only yesterday that I got the girl I wanted and squealed with delight. She's been a blessing ever since.

Daughter Angela came in for this special event, and a group of us "girls" met for lunch yesterday to celebrate. We had girls of all ages and had a wonderful time.


This is my daughter-in-law Leiann, my granddaughter Candice, and my great-granddaughter Riley. Riley is at the perfect age - 2 1/2 months - to introduce her to the world of girls night out, or day out, or week out. It's all good.


We were so happy that Cheryl moved back to Texas in time to join us. I've been so excited as I anticipated this day that I feel like it's my birthday. I could handle turning 40 again. It seemed so old then, but looks very young to me now.


My sweet granddaughters Sophia, Baylee and Juliet were some of the younger ones in our group. They have the girl thing down pat.






Allison with friends Tressa and Jennifer. We appreciate them for celebrating with us.



Birthday gifts for the birthday girl. Yeah, birthdays aren't all bad.



We all enjoyed the unique gift Angela presented to her sister. There were 40 notes in a bag with a favorite memory written on each note and a roll of bills in each one was a sweet surprise. Some memories were funny, others were tear-jerkers. Allison's idea of celebrating her 40th is to go with her family to Disney World. The trip is being planned and some of us contributed to the fund instead of a big party bash or spa day. But a girl's got to eat, so another celebration is in the works for dinner tonight. Also, since she shares a birthday with husband Brian, it's definitely a family affair.


We're never too young to party. Riley enjoyed her day with the girls even though she dozed through most of it. What a sweet girl!



Is this precious or what??? This sweet smile was in response to her Aunt Dee's loving attention.


There's nothing like friends and family, and having something to celebrate. How thankful I am for this lovely woman, my daughter, and the joy she has always brought into my life.


Happy birthday Allison and Brian and God's blessings for many more. You are the light of my life and truly gorgeous at 40! I love you both!